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Everybody feels lonely sometimes. But only few of us are aware how important this feeling was for our ancestors - and that our modern world can turn it into something that really hurts us. Why do we feel this way and what can we do about it?
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13 päivää sittenMalik Usman
تب على قلبي ما في الا انا احبك يا عمري احبك في حياتي يا بعد قلبي والله يا عمري والله والله اني ما عندي رصيد ما في شيء ما راح اجي بس ما اقدر ما راح اجي انا وياك ما راح يصير خير بس ما عندي مشكلة ما عندي شيء بس انا ما راح ادق على شي ولا شيء ما راح ارد على اي شيء ولا شيء بس ما عندي رصيد ولا عندي رصيد ادق على امي ادق ادق على جوالك مغلق ما عندي رصيد ما في احد ما عندك مشكلة بس ما ادري ما اقدر اجي بس انا عندي مشكلة في فخ بس ما في مشكلة بس انت بس ما عندي شي انا عندي مشكلة بس ما في شيء ما راح ادق ولا شي بس ما اقدر اجي ولا لا بس انا عندي شغل في البيت بس انا عندي شغل في المدرسة بس انت بس انا ما اقدر اجي ولا راح اجي انا بس انا عندي شغل بس ما اقدر اجي بس ما عندي رصيد ادق على جوال ماما ًًًًُُُ عغ انا عندي مشكلة بس انا عندي مشكلة انا عندي
13 päivää sittenBareerah Parwez
N I C E ☺
20 päivää sittenCurtis Miles
I appreciate that you made this video. Thank you for sharing this.
Uukausi sittenIsaac Brown
you're probably not going to see this, but if you do, I just need to say: thank you for inspiring me
Uukausi sittenNeil Clerk
Reading these comments, I'm pretty sure half of y'all didn't take any message away other than "Loneliness is harmful"
4 tuntia sittenLinc Codes
This video.... Made me so emotional 😭😭😭😭
4 tuntia sittenYahya Doğan
I think loneliness is so natural that every human being is lonely in death and birth. We came this world lonely and we leave here lonely again.
5 tuntia sittenEdmund Shumway
This video was really awesome! Super helpful insights.
5 tuntia sittenTrial
a point of time where loneliness is at its peak is certainly this year and last year with all the lockdowns and quarantines there has been no interaction between people, i get bored sometimes so i hop on online chats and just talk. hopefully everything starts opening back up and not another year of lockdown.
6 tuntia sittenc.K Marc.
I hope I can watch this video 10years ago then I can change everything. Or maybe not
6 tuntia sittenClash of clans Fans
الحمدالله
6 tuntia sittenMarvellous Livingstone
so...i was just crying all the way through because i can relate since I still have no friends and I start Uni this year in sept
7 tuntia sittenoriginal2
don't give up, chat up that person you always wanted to
5 tuntia sittenAndrew Cantatore
This (and my weight gain) has affected my mental state and my self confidence along with my sleep schedule. Quarantine has been tough.
7 tuntia sittenW2aT
This video is 100 how I look at the world.
9 tuntia sittenwatherby29
"Our bodies and minds are fundamentally the same as they were 50000 years ago". Profound. They just (correctly) threw the theory of evolution (for humans) away. 5:04
9 tuntia sittenArix Wap
Great video!
10 tuntia sittenEmrys The Warlock
When you realize that you prefer daydreaming and making fantasies inside your head instead of talking to real people and facing real life...
15 tuntia sittenoriginal2
escapism, eh? it's like a drug
5 tuntia sittenJulia Parker
I feel like everyone has to go through loneliness to see how the world really is last year when I was in eight grade for the first time in my life ever I had a mental breakdown and I stopped myself from telling anyone not only did I feel isolated from my “friends” but I also felt isolated from my family too it was literally the worst experience I’ve ever had and I feel like it gave me a taste of reality. Although it was my worst experience in life it has really helped me to better myself I use it everyday as motivation to grind and put in all effort when I play sports. It turned me into an Alone type of person and I feel like the pandemic came on at the absolute perfect time for me, unlike others the pandemic helped me better myself and I’ve started eating and drinking healthy now. My mindset feels a lot stronger then the normal teen and I feel like I can accomplish a lot more in life and do whatever I want. I’d say to anyone who is experiencing loneliness right now turn it into a positive thing and use it as a way to do something really productive in life like hitting the gym or chasing you big dreams, and also FUCK the people who don’t want talk to you I learned to not care about what others think of me because in 5 to 10 years they’ll probably be living like the average person working at McDonald’s or target. Main gist of what I’m saying is don’t let loneliness be the death of you let it be the reason someone would wanna be like you.
16 tuntia sittenDiogo Ecard
thank u
Tunti sittenoriginal2
Very nice story. Loneliness actually is supposed to be a signal that you are doing something wrong and should correct your behavior to survive (in the ancestral environment). It's good to hear that it worked for you as intended. Good luck.
5 tuntia sittenGerrit
Got to "Kurzgesagt – In a Nutshell" from "Two Minute Papers". These vids are really helpful and should be made more prominent during the pandemic. It's not for TI's though.
17 tuntia sittenoriginal2
who's TI?
5 tuntia sittenHecc
The last time I tried to get professional help they made fun of me what the fuck do I do
18 tuntia sittenoriginal2
who was the professional?
5 tuntia sittenwusenrob
I'm watching several videos on the subject of loneliness and it frustrates me. They don't seem to understand the problem they talk about. "Feel lonely? Just call a friend" What you need to understand is that some people just have no one, absolutely no one. There's just no connections. You're stuck. That's the real problem, stop ending all these talks and videos with "call a friend". That's so delusionnal
18 tuntia sittenoriginal2
Come on, they don't pretend their advice is universal. They are showing how to crawl out of a ditch, not a chasm.
5 tuntia sittenOryon
This man can literally talk about potatoes, I will watch and enjoy
19 tuntia sittenBig bang 1
I need a wife
20 tuntia sittenoriginal2
@K S u want to live forever?
4 tuntia sittenK S
Some won't agree with you. Many have been "killed" by their failed marriages.
5 tuntia sittenoriginal2
settle for a waifu? jk
5 tuntia sittenLana K
I want to talk to someone, but I don’t know how.
21 tunti sittenoriginal2
hey, what would you like to talk about?
5 tuntia sittenAnt Man
If loneliness is depicted by holes, let’s all be spongebob and live in bikini bottom.
21 tunti sittenAnt Man
I can never be lonely. -I am enough company for myself and never get bored. -Doesn’t mean I can’t be around people.
21 tunti sittenAustin
"For the mindset of the flesh is death, but the mindset of the Spirit is life and peace."
22 tuntia sittenAthe Babi
God i wish they could teach me everything i need to know like this
Päivä sittenoriginal2
ditto
5 tuntia sittenBra Zill
I have 10 close friends
Päivä sittenoriginal2
you sir are a connoisseur
5 tuntia sittenZain Boyko
If ever I feel lonely I just remember God and that is enough for me. Glad I believe in God otherwise I would feel empty my whole life.
Päivä sittenpaul riggall
Loneliness is a crowded room.
Päivä sittenCharisma
Actually having fun is a 1 year anniversary for me
Päivä sittenSeptar
Россия- 100% одиноки и их это устраивает, что тут сказать-ох уж эта Россия
Päivä sittenTamir Lapidus
"Because its part of your DNA" So my ancestors were lonely too...
Päivä sittenoriginal2
u're not the lonely lonely
Päivä sittenEnte Blu
Do you know what’s worse than loneliness? Being around stupid people. So yeah, I guess I’ll stay alone.
Päivä sittenEnte Blu
@original2 I am just saying that I didn't develope a higher iq, I simply am more intelligent than the friends I got in my life. They were selfish, ignorant, assholes. I've been pretty unlucky, that's it I think.
18 tuntia sittenoriginal2
@Ente Blu lol, i guess i'm too far beneath your mighty intellect as well
18 tuntia sittenEnte Blu
@original2 because I have no answer for a wrong question.
Päivä sittenoriginal2
@Ente Blu a reply, but not an answer
Päivä sittenEnte Blu
@original2 it’s easy, I live in a small village where people believe in astrology, have no personality nor culture about anything and talk about drug all the times. Some of them are simply assholes and disappeared with their boyfriends...so...
Päivä sittenANGMAN95
omg i really need to work on being more self accepting and confident, anyway I'm gonna go back to avoiding all social interaction
Päivä sittenThe Traveler
Too bad women only are about what a man owns instead of his actual qualities or lack there of. Maybe if that wasn't the case the world would be a better place
Päivä sittenThe Traveler
@original2 I'd take these statements further but apparently calling women out on their shitty dishonest behavior makes a man a mysoginst by default these days
Päivä sittenoriginal2
lol, ye, in the ancestral environment ability to obtain resources meant survival, women picking losers lost too
Päivä sittenibrahim haytham
The worst pain is not being alone and lonely but being surrounded and lonely
Päivä sittenbeachdirge
that video helped me a lot :) thanks
Päivä sittenSam Meredith
my sister played I don't' know you yet as I was watching this
Päivä sittenDopaminn Moments
covid-19 homeschooling has fucked up my mind and my happiness, tarnished my relatively good grades and left me off like a beaten up sack of fucking shit. But eh, atleast I got to play videogames 16 hours a day. What a fucking life. I want to hit a restart button right now, Im 17 and I feel like I already have missed out on my life. My youth is almost over, going to work till I die now. cya in hell
Päivä sittenKauan Moscatino
im crying now
Päivä sittengirafen
my loneliness is killing me
Päivä sittenDantiel82
Ok
Päivä sitten『baitmaster76』
i just live with it
Päivä sittenDeNiYoGa21
Hmmm
Päivä sittenBrandon Pither
This music is beautiful
Päivä sittenjebus
"Problems with the modern world" literally everything.
Päivä sittenLeindx
Among
Päivä sittenAlfred Tabudlo
us
Päivä sittenChi Thinh
Thanks Kurzgesagt so much🥰
2 päivää sittenEdward V
Being with the wrong group of people can make you feel even lonelier
2 päivää sittenYuri
soon the friends will fade and only loneliness will remain 5:40 the one in the middle goes hollow
2 päivää sittenLulu Jjk
Why do your videos always make me so sentimental lmao😭😭😭
2 päivää sittenVD Jankowitz
I am 17 and I want to kill myself no one loves me i am really attractive with a awesome personality but i always got rejected i hate life and i am broke
2 päivää sittenVD Jankowitz
@original2 that’s the thing I am trying to figure out 😖
22 tuntia sittenVD Jankowitz
@original2 idk thb 😔
22 tuntia sittenoriginal2
why do you get rejected if you are very attractive?
Päivä sittenMonique Silburn
😑it's 10x worse when you're a black woman and you feel fking rejected all the time.
2 päivää sittenMonique Silburn
🤢😥
2 päivää sittenGh0stZ
Wow, this is really deep. I've been searching my entire life for some one that I can connect with, but I never found them.
2 päivää sittenGh0stZ
@original2 Multiple factors. Either because people like better being on their cellphones instead of talking, maybe also because most convesations that I get into are about sex and porn, a subject I am not really interested in, and a bunch of other factors.
Päivä sittenoriginal2
why cannot you connect with people?
Päivä sittenN O
Randomly feeling lonely....😃
2 päivää sittenTHOMAS EM BUSCA DO 1 BILHÃO
Conteúdo profundo e de qualidade 👏🏻
2 päivää sittenBartek Chmura
That was very good video
2 päivää sittenTommaso l
Who hates life like me?
2 päivää sittenrichard groves-ordway
Imagine to have no one to talk too.....that is lonely
2 päivää sittenspirit ._.
I'm tired of feeling alone and lonely. Ikr it's amazing that I'm still alive i cant believe it. I'm still alive...
2 päivää sitten동탄대형마트소리없는방귀빌런엄준식
시발 이거 나잖아
2 päivää sittenMike Mondragon
Is it okay that I started to tear up hearing this
2 päivää sittenIdris Abdulkarim
man... i really never felt so touched by a video in a long time thank you for making this
2 päivää sittenJohn Steven Lana
this pandemic made everything worse
2 päivää sittenabyy man
Everything you said fits me. Ps I use double armour when I'm outside
2 päivää sittenJasmine Alkatiri
to anyone who are dealing with loneliness, you are not alone. we are going to be okay again. our job is to try again eventho the result is never guaranteed.
2 päivää sittenoriginal2
the show must go on
Päivä sittenShawn Elliott
I have literally no idea why Youtube recommended this video to me in 2021. I'm kidding, of course. I know exactly why -- because all the extraverts of the world are busy crying in 2021 due to lack of attention. I might've been one of them as a kid, but a long time ago I had to learn how to appreciate my own company, so COVID has had no effect on my mental health. Admittedly it's probably unhealthy for me to experience Schadenfreude about all the lonely extraverts who didn't like my company when they had the chance, but I'm doing it anyway.
2 päivää sittenNITRIC FOX 78
I do all of this but I only feel bored or is my perception of bored wrong
2 päivää sittenRoberto Lopez
I’m lonely but I love to be able to be with myself and strengthen my body and learn from my self I been lonely since 12 and now I’m 18 plus I’m proudly vIrGiN 😇
2 päivää sittenRoberto Lopez
😇
2 päivää sittenAlex Fiedler
The direction and cinematography in this clip is award-worthy.
2 päivää sittenoriginal2
let's award it donation ;)
Päivä sittenShaikh Ziad Films
I've been lonely for such a long time to the point where I've officially become a loner
2 päivää sittenHicham Khamlichi
I just hate ranting and be burdened with the thought that i may myself be just that, a burden. But just to be there next to someone and feel their warmth, to look at them in their eyes and listen to their voice and pour out your heart to them. Perhaps its not exactly the fact that they may be helpful in their advice - many are - that soothes me, it's probably that I crave human closeness and comfort more than any other material need... the mere opportunity to feel heard and validated and normalized. To know that, in this immense sea of unknown and unforgiving plights and fights, there are people out there ready to stretch their arms for you, and give you their shoulders and show you their hearts. I like to see myself as a complex machinery of thoughts. So many, many, many feelings and emotions in just a few seconds, running wild for several excuciating hours. All just simple connections in my brain that feel material only to the tiny, lonely ears inside of my mind that listen to them... and destroy me. The troubling irony is, I know very well that these thoughts are nothing tangible. Were I to so desirably cease to exist, they wouldnt either. Yet, they weaken me in ways where i find myself to be totally unrecognizable. Like parasites, they intrude the every sides of my mind and paralyze it. I feel useless... I become useless; unable to work properly or think clearly. My eyes, my fingers, my arms, my legs - powered objects deprived of all direction or action... totally idle if not only attentive to one thing: this inexcapable feeling of anxiety-driven restlessness. These happen so often. At times, they are instances I come to accept, on other occasions, I feel immense shame, self-hate and pure.. disappointment. Disappointed that a complex machinery capable of so many things great and small has become its own helpless enemy, acutely vulnerable to a few chains of thoughts, a few memories, a few events. But these are just thoughts, and it will get better, until it doesn't again, until.. well, like I said, I just hate ranting -
2 päivää sittenDigital dr. prof. dçr. uzman Hasan ツ
Me: Are you challenging me ?
3 päivää sittenSans Timeline BA24C0 Gamer
Its 1:23 am, i have work tomorrow and I'm in bed crying because I feel like the world hates me and nothing on youtube interests me anymore, now its 1:24 am and the video isnt helping
3 päivää sittenN O
seek professional help :) "It's not a sign of weakness, but of courage"
2 päivää sittenoriginal2
Good, talk irl to others about how youtube doesn't satisfy you.
3 päivää sittenghosthunter 790
Not alone
3 päivää sittenPhilip Atkins
This won’t effect on me, I already become Lonely
3 päivää sittenTrayFast
but i love being alone
3 päivää sittenThe fision
Its not talking about being alone, its talking about FEELING ALONE.
2 päivää sittenMohamed Rayane Kaddouri
me watching this video like : haha that sounds familiar :) wait that's not a good thing
3 päivää sittenulfa nazeeha
just to say that anyone could feel lonely. i think im a social kind of person, bcs i can make friends easily even if i just met them, i feel bless about that thankfully. But idk why i always think that i often lose friends that is precious to me.. sometimes ppl that i close to feels like they don't even care about me, i even think that all of this rejection are my fault, I'm the one being "a bad friend".
3 päivää sittenBibiana Aguiar
wow this comment section is very personal
3 päivää sittenlightning fury
I've been alone for 7 years and still am
3 päivää sittenZumar Shahzad
Woah man I felt like I was being described
3 päivää sittenEren Kıran
I am allways alone😓
3 päivää sittenboscorellie1
And then Covid-19 arrived... you know the rest :(
3 päivää sittenSebastian Fernandez
Your time may be consumed by romantic relationships... Yeah... I can only wish it was.
3 päivää sittenN0t M8d
i think being mad has become a habit for me
3 päivää sittenYoga Amanda Putra
gg
3 päivää sittenCereal Bowl
Was this video actually from two years ago? It feels so recent that I watched it...
3 päivää sittenFL B
I can't help being lonely. People just don't like me. I have tried everything
3 päivää sittenoriginal2
When you ask them why they dislike you, what do they say?
3 päivää sittenAdım Yok
same but I am okay with that because I started not caring much and I am just trying to be happy
3 päivää sittenS1m M
Me too
3 päivää sittenLIfEթsψᴄhedeʟiᴄ
Guys I did it i opened up to my friends
4 päivää sittenLIfEթsψᴄhedeʟiᴄ
@ulfa nazeeha is good how are you? Do ypu need to talk
3 päivää sittenulfa nazeeha
woahh, so how is it going bud? XD
3 päivää sittenANGELICA _CEE
Looking for excuses to decline invitations.
4 päivää sittenfrogboy
jesus christ youtube I get it stop roasting me
4 päivää sitten스테파니
talking with myself is a good coping mechanisms to me whenever i had struggles
4 päivää sittenD13H4RD2L1V3
Really hurts when I’m watching this after being diagnosed with clinical depression aggravated by loneliness. It’s more relatable than ever...
4 päivää sittenWill Miall
I constantly feel like others don't want me around. Purely mental and not had people say it, but it's how I feel a lot. These videos help solidify the idea of I've not the only one feeling this way
4 päivää sittenoriginal2
What do they say when you ask why are you not wanted?
3 päivää sittenWill Miall
For anyone that may need to see/hear this. You are worth time! A lot of people feel like you do and that's not taking from anything you may feel
4 päivää sittenSiddhant Garodia
When you get close to one person, and they suddenly starts ignoring you. This makes you feel really lonely. So keep more than one close friend, and don't trust anyone too much. Goodnight
4 päivää sittenoriginal2
Yes, diversify.
3 päivää sittenKacper Kwiatkowski
I like being alone but I also feel lonely...
4 päivää sittenoriginal2
Can you elaborate?
3 päivää sittenM. Shabdik
so did u reach out someone after watching this ?
4 päivää sittenNEERAJ SHARMA
Somebody pls tell me how do I create these type of animated videos.. any specific skill or methods
4 päivää sittenoriginal2
Be honest, have you even had determination to google it?
3 päivää sittenMannat Bhasin
As everybody here feels lonely and alone so why not we make friends here in comment section like online friends and of the same age so it's easier to talk and whatever your age is you can find your online friend , pen pal whatever you want to call it . If somebody is 14-15 let me know A KIND NOTE : if you are a kidnapper or anything like that like criminal please stay away because nobody is going to share personal information and hoping nobody will too so stay away.
4 päivää sittenoriginal2
Shame you exclude kidnappers.
3 päivää sitten